If you’ve ever fallen in love, you know it can consume every waking thought. However, successful entrepreneurs don’t stay successful by spending all morning daydreaming about the fireworks from their date last night. Running a business takes concentrated effort and consistent effective action—neither of which happen when you’re replaying your first kiss or “I love you” over and over in your head. I’ve talked with more than one entrepreneur who has avoided dating altogether simply because they don’t want to lose focus.
So it may surprise you to find that falling in love can actually be good for business – if you leverage it correctly. I recently spoke with executive coach and founder of Power Love Woman, Michelle Baxo, about leveraging falling in love to advance our businesses. Baxo has helped thousands of clients both find love and thrive while in love. If you’d like to do the same, follow these five tips for crushing it at work when you’d rather be cuddling with someone on your couch.
1. Leverage Those Happiness Hormones
We’ve all experienced the impact being in love has on how we interact with others. When we feel good, we tend to get along better with staff, vendors, and customers. We might let go of mistakes and unfavorable circumstances more quickly and focus on solutions rather than problems. To let yourself go with the love flow, start and end your day giving gratitude for the wonderful people in your life, including your partner. Not only does gratitude fill you with happy hormones and brain chemicals (which are good for business), it also trains your brain to see possibilities, opportunities and solutions.
2. Cash In On The Confidence Boost
“When I ask single people who are looking for love how often their relationship status is in the back of their mind, they frequently say, ‘Always.’” says Baxo. “It lowers their self-esteem, impacts their outlook on life and more. Whenever we relate to ourselves as a failure, we are distracted by things like self-doubt and resentment. But being with someone special can make you feel like a success because you’ve handled something in your life that really matters to you. That feeling of accomplishment can transfer to tasks you take on in your business like giving presentations or wooing new clients.”
3. Start Delegating
If you’re a workaholic who has been spending all your time on the job, you might be inefficient as a result. When you have plenty of time, tasks can take forever. When you’re trying to get out the door for a date, ways to be more efficient come to mind. “Falling in love will press you to find new ways to accomplish more in less time. For instance, you might be doing things that you should actually delegate or hire out. Or you might be spending more time than necessary on minor details.” says Baxo. This is a great reason to start the delegation process.
4. Practice Being Present
When you notice that falling in love has impacted your focus at your job, work on mindfulness. The more you strengthen this muscle, the more efficient and effective you’ll be in your business. “Here’s how you practice: When you are with your partner, give them your undivided attention (no phones, no planning, no worrying etc), and when you go to work, practice being 100% focused on your business – no daydreaming about your dreamy lover!” advises Baxo. Since you’re likely to struggle with this, take it on as a practice, not a rule. Every time you catch yourself being in your head, tell yourself it’s time to practice being present.
5. You Can Get Off The “Life Ladder”
Most people give 90% of their attention to one or two areas (like, business and health for example). This is what Baxo calls the Life Ladder and it doesn’t work because everything below the top two priorities fall short and ultimately you’ll feel like a failure. “Instead of the Life Ladder, try viewing your life as a pie. I call this the Alignment Pie. From this view of life, all of the things that are important to you have their own slice, which are different sizes and can fluctuate in size. In this model, your business always has a slice, and so does your relationship, your health, your community, your family, etc.” says Baxo. “Sometimes you’ll need to fluctuate the amount of time and energy spent on any given slice of life, but you never leave it out completely.”
Using these tips, you can find success in love and business when leveraged together.